Be Your Self

Jadilah Dirimu Sendiri

You can only respect differences in others when you truly respect yourself. Respecting other races, cultures and traditions is natural when you realise we share the same home: EARTH.
Being prejudiced against another because of their skin color shows clearly that you don’t understand that beneath it all, we are the same. It is more natural to accept differences in people than to make them just like you.

“I may have confidence and like who I am, but it doesn’t mean EVERYONE has to be like me.”

Accepting differences in skin colour, culture and the unique identity of all peoples of this Earth is the thought of the ‘enlightened’ mind. Accepting differences in others is a SIGN OF CONFIDENCE.

Being yourself can be very difficult at first because some people lead you to believe you can’t be yourself.

Solution: DON’T LISTEN TO THEM. You may not be what other people want you to be if you are yourself, but that’s their problem, not yours. Be yourself and then others will come to you.

The peace you feel when you can just be you, makes you regret all the stress you’ve endured for years trying to be something else you’re not. All the chanting to Buddhas for years can’t help you accept you. You just have to realise it’s the results of your karma. ACCEPT IT AND MOVE ON. The best way to impress someone is to just be yourself.

“If you choose the God theory, then accepting differences in others is accepting God.”

“If you choose the karma theory, then accepting differences in others is accepting Karma.”

Putting all your energy into being a projection is like a movie. It has to end. So just be yourself and better. When people criticise you for being different, it’s because they dare not be themselves. Forgive those that criticize you because you’re not the problem. They can’t accept themselves and they are suffering.

I grew up Asian in the US. I was made fun of when I was growing up. I realised I had to accept that I am Asian, and then others accepted me. Being comfortable with yourself takes courage. It’s worth it. Being someone else who you are not is a sign of cowardice. Cowardice means you have fears. Address your fears now. Don’t let it stay.

Sometimes to be ourselves we need a little help at first but once we get started, it’s addictive!! I like the attitude I have now at 44 compared to when I was 24. I’m so much more comfortable with myself, thanks to this thing called experience.

I’ve stopped trying to convince the world how good I am. I am convincing myself now because when I’m convinced, the world will follow. Meditation isn’t some weird Eastern trip. It’s just being quiet with yourself and convincing yourself you can be much more because you have worth. Really!

What I admired so much about Mother Teresa is that she saw God in everyone. God was HERE not in the far distant Milky Way. Every time I read, hear or contemplate on Mother Teresa’s life and works for the last 25 years of my life, I have to control the tears.

When I was ordained, it took three hours of sitting meditation-style. When I got up, my legs were numb. H.H. the Dalai Lama, who ordained me, couldn’t stop laughing. I know he wasn’t laughing at me because I like myself…hehehe. I’ve been told I wouldn’t be good at what I do and I believed it. But I decided not to follow a lie so I continued teaching. I KNOW I can’t teach or be like the Dalai Lama, but I know that if I do my best, it would be just good enough. So here I am.

The thing I don’t have in common with H.H. the Dalai Lama is that He’s enlightened. But I’ll get there. Being humble and accepting that you’re not enlightened is not a put down or that you can’t be. It’s just being honest about who you are AT THE MOMENT. Who I am at the moment may not be as good as the next guy, but it’s all impermanent. Accept the truth, rejoice for the next guy, and work hard!

Being yourself is one step closer to the actual real enlightenment of a Buddha. So go for it!


“I’m sorry that I don’t look, talk, and act like you. But I have no choice but TO BE ME. I didn’t start out life trying to be different. I just am.”
~ H.E. The 25th Tsem Tulku Rinpoche

“I tried to be like you, but I couldn’t because I’m not. I have to be me. If being me offends you, then you have to find yourself first before you can accept me. ”
~ H.E. The 25th Tsem Tulku Rinpoche

“Sometimes it’s hard being who you are because the majority of the people where you live are different. But you just have to be you anyways.”
~ H.E. The 25th Tsem Tulku Rinpoche

“If being me offends you, maybe I’m not the problem.”
~ H.E. The 25th Tsem Tulku Rinpoche

“If I can’t be you, it doesn’t mean you’re not good, it just means I am not you.”
~ H.E. The 25th Tsem Tulku Rinpoche

“I traveled around the world to find myself. I wish I knew earlier that it was just looking within me. It would have saved a lot of money.”
~ TH.E. The 25th Tsem Tulku Rinpoche

“I’m ‘sorry’ I’m not you. It’s not like I had a choice. I’m sorry you’re not like me, but you didn’t have a choice either. Why do you criticise me that I’m not you? I can do the same. But I chose to accept myself instead.”
~ H.E. The 25th Tsem Tulku Rinpoche

“The first time I was told I look good, I was like really? I realise now, I didn’t accept me at that time.”
~ H.E. The 25th Tsem Tulku Rinpoche

“I woke up this morning and said to myself in the mirror, I AM REALLY GOING TO LIKE YOU TODAY. I woke up this morning and said to myself in the mirror, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL NO MATTER WHAT THEY SAY.”
~ H.E. The 25th Tsem Tulku Rinpoche

“The thing Madonna and I have in common is that we both perform. Be yourself.”
~ H.E. The 25th Tsem Tulku Rinpoche

“The best friends you can have are people that you can be yourself with. Other than that, they’re just acquaintances.”
~ H.E. The 25th Tsem Tulku Rinpoche

“Every time I looked in the mirror for the last 25 years, I have to control the tears. It’s better now. I started to like myself. Hehe.”
~ H.E. The 25th Tsem Tulku Rinpoche

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